The Sexes
What makes a man a man and a woman a woman?
Why do men rule the world when women are so much more competent? (see, for example, Half the Sky, pp 195-8) Studies have also shown that women are more competent than men in every way (except math and science), making better leaders and workers. (see The Atlantic, "The Confidence Gap", Apr 14, 2014)
Why did God make men and women so different so that we fundamentally don’t understand each other? I don’t see what the point is of trying to get along with someone who’s so alien.
Probably the top example:
women: proper treatment, then sex
men: sex, then proper treatment
I see no way around this, and quite frankly, I think it's way easier for the man to do it the woman's way than the other way around in order to get what he wants.
There's some problems with this.
"Through sex, men get to feel that we find them attractive and worthy."
Objection: Dr. Laura (Berman) is saying have sex with him even though you don't (find him attractive and worthy). Well, then what's the point of sex as a gauge for telling whether you think your husband's "attractive and worthy"?
"Sex is the place where men get to show us how much they care about us."
Objection: But most men are selfish, clueless lovers. I don't think they care about this at all. If they did, women would be flocking around men to have sex with them.
(see also Theology > Submission)
The vagina was made for the sexual pleasure of man, not woman. Why? It makes no sense.
Let me explain here, because I know people will object. Most women cannot have an orgasm from intercourse alone. They need clitoral stimulation as well. Unfortunately, the clitoris is not located in the vagina (have no idea why God designed it this way, or nature for that matter, if you don't believe in God). Furthermore, the vagina itself is poor in nerve endings, most of them in the outer 1/3 near the entrance. Forget about the g-spot; again, from the research, it seems that it doesn’t exist for the majority of women.
Why did God invent sex? It's done more harm than good in the world.
Perhaps women really do revolve around men and were meant to. Consider ...
A man lives his life however he wants, but a woman always keeps her husband in consideration, or even her future husband in consideration. EX: If a man wants to go down a career track that will make him not the best husband (a pilot for example, where he'll be away for a lot of the time or even most of the time), he goes ahead with his plan, never even thinking what this would mean for his marriage or his marriage prospects. A woman, however, when considering her career options, will often rule out those that would make her seem like an undesirable wife or marriage candidate. In fact, I was once reading in Why Men Marry Some Women & Not Others that one of the big differentiators between women who get married and those who don't is that the first group will go out of their way to make lifestyle choices that are conducive to getting married (for example, they will not move to a new location that does not have a good gender ratio, even if that's where they really want to live), whereas the latter group takes a passive approach to marriage -- they go about living their lives as they please and if they meet a guy then they meet a guy and if they don't meet a guy then they don't.
At first, I thought this made sense in the sense that of course, these two types of women would be increasing or whittling down their chances of getting married by their life decisions, but now I can see it in another way -- not that they're truly increasing or decreasing their chances by their decisions, but that they are merely displaying for all men to see what kind of women they are, whether the first or the second type, and that men then choose accordingly, because they want the kind of woman that will make a man the center of her world.
Men's stories are about adventure; women's stories are about romance. So the man lives his life as himself being the center, while in women's lives, men are also the center. Ironically, it's men who need women, and not women who need men. This is something that I have a very hard time reconciling, but it deserves an explanation. Well, you could say women are important to men, but marriage isn't, but men aren't important to women, but marriage is. But did I really say anything new by this? Or is this just God's way of making things fair?
Why do men rule the world when women are so much more competent? (see, for example, Half the Sky, pp 195-8) Studies have also shown that women are more competent than men in every way (except math and science), making better leaders and workers. (see The Atlantic, "The Confidence Gap", Apr 14, 2014)
Why did God make men and women so different so that we fundamentally don’t understand each other? I don’t see what the point is of trying to get along with someone who’s so alien.
Probably the top example:
women: proper treatment, then sex
men: sex, then proper treatment
I see no way around this, and quite frankly, I think it's way easier for the man to do it the woman's way than the other way around in order to get what he wants.
There's some problems with this.
"Through sex, men get to feel that we find them attractive and worthy."
Objection: Dr. Laura (Berman) is saying have sex with him even though you don't (find him attractive and worthy). Well, then what's the point of sex as a gauge for telling whether you think your husband's "attractive and worthy"?
"Sex is the place where men get to show us how much they care about us."
Objection: But most men are selfish, clueless lovers. I don't think they care about this at all. If they did, women would be flocking around men to have sex with them.
(see also Theology > Submission)
The vagina was made for the sexual pleasure of man, not woman. Why? It makes no sense.
Let me explain here, because I know people will object. Most women cannot have an orgasm from intercourse alone. They need clitoral stimulation as well. Unfortunately, the clitoris is not located in the vagina (have no idea why God designed it this way, or nature for that matter, if you don't believe in God). Furthermore, the vagina itself is poor in nerve endings, most of them in the outer 1/3 near the entrance. Forget about the g-spot; again, from the research, it seems that it doesn’t exist for the majority of women.
Why did God invent sex? It's done more harm than good in the world.
Perhaps women really do revolve around men and were meant to. Consider ...
A man lives his life however he wants, but a woman always keeps her husband in consideration, or even her future husband in consideration. EX: If a man wants to go down a career track that will make him not the best husband (a pilot for example, where he'll be away for a lot of the time or even most of the time), he goes ahead with his plan, never even thinking what this would mean for his marriage or his marriage prospects. A woman, however, when considering her career options, will often rule out those that would make her seem like an undesirable wife or marriage candidate. In fact, I was once reading in Why Men Marry Some Women & Not Others that one of the big differentiators between women who get married and those who don't is that the first group will go out of their way to make lifestyle choices that are conducive to getting married (for example, they will not move to a new location that does not have a good gender ratio, even if that's where they really want to live), whereas the latter group takes a passive approach to marriage -- they go about living their lives as they please and if they meet a guy then they meet a guy and if they don't meet a guy then they don't.
At first, I thought this made sense in the sense that of course, these two types of women would be increasing or whittling down their chances of getting married by their life decisions, but now I can see it in another way -- not that they're truly increasing or decreasing their chances by their decisions, but that they are merely displaying for all men to see what kind of women they are, whether the first or the second type, and that men then choose accordingly, because they want the kind of woman that will make a man the center of her world.
Men's stories are about adventure; women's stories are about romance. So the man lives his life as himself being the center, while in women's lives, men are also the center. Ironically, it's men who need women, and not women who need men. This is something that I have a very hard time reconciling, but it deserves an explanation. Well, you could say women are important to men, but marriage isn't, but men aren't important to women, but marriage is. But did I really say anything new by this? Or is this just God's way of making things fair?
